“The way we were treated as small children is the way we treat ourselves the rest of our lives: with cruelty or with tenderness and protection.” ~ Alice Miller Sometimes people who are outwardly successful in most areas of their lives, still do not feel good about themselves. No amount…

We probably all, at one time or another (if not all the time) have difficulty motivating ourselves to complete some task or begin a project. Whether it is cleaning the basement or starting an exercise program, we may procrastinate for months, if not years. This can be very frustrating, because…

Many who struggle with weight are sabotaged by emotional eating. They eat when they are happy, they eat when they are sad, and sometimes they just eat because eating feels good. It can be terribly difficult to break this habit because it is usually quite deep rooted. It goes back…

All children fight. Isn’t that what we hear generation after generation? To my mind, there is only one reason children fight, and it is not because they are biologically wired to do so. Certainly, humans all have some aggressive instincts, but we do not all act on those. The days…

When we talk about children of divorce, we usually think in terms of children or teens. Most parents are concerned about the initial impact on their children, but once they are grown, it is easy to assume there are no more issues. However, adult children of divorce have some special…

Everyone has had the experience of setting goals for themselves, or deciding to change old ways of being, only to find themselves slipping back. It is almost as though an inner battle is being staged between the part that wants to move forward, and a part that seems to be…

Do you struggle with difficult relatives? Is there someone in your family who always manages to take a shot at you, or manages to find some way to put you down at every family gathering? Do you dread family functions because you start becoming anxious days before, and you just…

People lie for many reasons. Generally it is because they feel someone would be mad or upset with them if they knew the truth. What this means is that they betray the trust of another to protect themselves from the consequences of their behavior. The minute one does this the…

“He who does not have the courage to speak up for his rights cannot earn the respect of others.” ~ Rene G. Torres Do people in your life make you feel guilty when you don’t do what they want you to do? Do you feel like you are walking on…